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Dropping the "F" Bomb

on turning 50

Elena Clemente  LMHC


Dropping the “F” Bomb!

No, I’m not referring to the four-letter word!

I’m referring to us women who are turning 50 or already past this well-known mile marker.

Fifty is the NEW “F” word so many of us women dread hearing or thinking about.

So often we women over 50 are told we’re finished, done, Kaput!

But what are we finished with? What are we done with? Life?

Do some of us experience a mid-life crisis? Sometimes.

Are we going through empty nest syndrome? Absolutely!

Is learning how to start over because of a divorce or being widowed rolling around in our minds? Sure.

And don’t get me started about menopause! UGH…

Successful aging is all about mindset, determining what we want as we gracefully make our way through the wisdom years of our life and not being afraid to simply go for it. Whatever “It” may be.

Since turning 50, I have been doing things I either haven’t done in years or never done before.

Recently while on a skiing trip with my family, I was on a downhill slope thinking, “How crazy is this?”, watching my 10 year old granddaughter, who’d only been skiing twice, handle it like she was a pro. But what really caught my attention was many of the other skiers were women in their 50’s even some well into their 80’s! Yes, their 80’s…

In fact, there was a senior ski club where we were staying.

It was inspiring to see these women enjoying their golden years in such a thrilling and exuberant manner. I was transfixed by these women, thinking to myself, how wonderful it is they didn’t listen to those who might say they’re too old for this, they might break a hip, and all the other negative talk we get about what we women should and shouldn’t be doing with our lives at this point.

I mean, who wrote the rule book on what age we women should experience certain aspects of life?

For me, I decided to tackle my 50’s, and beyond, by setting goals and challenges for myself regardless of how “young” I am. To accomplish whatever I could, in the next 20, 30, or even 40 years I may still have left to live, because that is what it’s about, LIVING!

So, I broke out my journal (I’ll talk about journaling at a later date), and I started a list of all the dreams, goals, challenges, places, etc., I want to achieve.

Here’s a few of mine:

 Stay an entire month in an Airbnb – in a place I’ve never been

 Own my own Airbnb

 Start a podcast

 Read 50 books in one year

 Take Salsa Dancing lessons

 Ski Aspen

 Go on a 5 day Meditation Retreat in the Berkshires

 Go to the airport and just fly somewhere, anywhere, without planning

 Sell everything and travel the USA in a RV

When I take time to write in my journal all the exciting and marvelous idea’s I have on how to continue living my life to its fullest, it not only helps me with depressed thoughts, it allows me to see what I have to look forward too.

Slowing down, spending time alone and writing in my journal helps with the days when I feel like I’m finished, done, kaput. I can look back on what I’ve written to reignite me, to look at my calendar and say, “Okay, I am putting X item from my list on this day and I’m going to do it.”

Spending time with my grandchildren allows me to feel youthful and see the world through their eyes which can be very fun and insightful.

The key to truly making all our years count isn’t about what we have, it’s about how we spend what time we have left doing exactly what we were meant to do. It’s called LIVING!

Here’s to the next 50…Cheers!











Mastering your Moods through the Arts

Elena Clemente LMHC


Remember the days, back in Kindergarten, when you got to color your first picture? How much fun it was to get your very own coloring book? Or opening your first box of crayons?

The 64 pack? Wow!

But then came a time when you got graded on an art project, and the joy of letting your inner artist out was crushed, damaged, scarred because someone else made you feel talentless?


For me it was the 4th grade. I received a "D" in Art class, thought I had no talent whatsoever, and for years no longer tried to express myself through any art form. I had come to fear future criticism, and so, I threw my imperfect artwork aside. However, Art isn't just painting, sculptures, or carving wood. I found my artistic expression is through interior designing. But more so, it's also my self-care therapy. My mood changer.


I find joy by touring model homes, visiting design studios, admiring architectural craftsmanship, even renting luxurious Airbnb homes just to see their stunning features up close and personal. For me, designing a room automatically lifts my spirit. It's putting my artistic, creative self into motion, then standing back to admire MY work, letting MYSELF feel proud, and more importantly, appreciation for MY talent.


Do you have creative ideas just rolling around inside your head bursting to come out? A long forgotten artistic self set aside for many a reason? Maybe you're not sure what your form of artistry is or the talents you posses.


Here's some ideas to get those creative juices flowing:

Writing

Singing

Dancing

Photography

Coloring

Sketching

Playing a musical instrument

Culinary Arts

Bullet Journals

Gardening

Woodworking

Learning a language

Pottery

Museums

Sewing


Try one or try them all. Have fun discovering what your inner artist wants to be. And remember, it's not about getting it right, or what others think, or trying to become a Master of the Arts. It's self-care for Mastering your Moods!









Mastering your Moods through the Arts

Elena Clemente LMHC

Remember the days, back in Kindergarten, when you got to color your first picture? How much fun it was to get your very own coloring book? Or opening your first box of crayons?

The 64 pack? Wow!

But then came a time when you got graded on an art project, and the joy of letting your inner artist out was crushed, damaged, scarred because someone else made you feel talentless?


For me it was the 4th grade. I received a "D" in Art class, thought I had no talent whatsoever, and for years no longer tried to express myself through any art form. I had come to fear future criticism, and so, I threw my imperfect artwork aside.

However, Art isn't just painting, sculptures, or carving wood. I found my artistic expression is through interior designing. But more so, it's also my self-care therapy. My mood changer.


I find joy by touring model homes, visiting design studios, admiring architectural craftsmanship, even renting luxurious Airbnb homes just to see their stunning features up close and personal. For me, designing a room automatically lifts my spirit. It's putting my artistic, creative self into motion, then standing back to admire MY work, letting MYSELF feel proud, and more importantly, appreciation for MY talent.


Do you have creative ideas just rolling around inside your head bursting to come out? A long forgotten artistic self set aside for many a reason? Maybe you're not sure what your form of artistry is or the talents you posses.


Here's some ideas to get those creative juices flowing:

Writing

Singing

Dancing

Photography

Coloring

Sketching

Playing a musical instrument

Culinary Arts

Bullet Journals

Gardening

Woodworking

Learning a language

Pottery

Museums

Sewing


Try one or try them all. Have fun discovering what your inner artist wants to be. And remember, it's not about getting it right, or what others think, or trying to become a Master of the Arts. It's self-care for Mastering your Moods!